When I first started calling the chat lines, I was very nervous to be sexual. It’s not that I didn’t want to, it’s just that I found myself in a lot of conversations about normal non-sexual things. I didn’t feel comfortable communicating what I wanted because I was self-conscious of being judged or rejected. So how did I handle it? I started touching myself during the conversations I was having no matter what they were about.
One person talked about his joy of car racing, I touched myself. Another person talked about their favorite place to travel, I touched myself. Over time, I realized that I was touching myself and getting more comfortable doing so no matter what was being said. In fact, any nervousness I was feeling at the beginning of the conversation had stopped after I started playing with myself for a while. Then I spoke with someone on the chat lines and told him what I was doing. He really liked my stories and we had so much fun over the chat lines. In fact, we speak with one another once a week still to this day. So when somebody new to phone dating asks me if it’s okay to touch themselves when they chat over the telephone, I always say yes with enthusiasm.
The truth is phone dating has helped me find my voice and explore my sexuality. It give people a change to make genuine connections and true intimacy. When you meet someone in-person things like appearance really matters but over the phone you can feel free to just be who you are and it doesn’t matter if a person takes interest in you or not because there are more people to speak with if one person doesn’t work out. Give phone dating a try to find out if it’s right for you.